After going through so much w/ him, he tells me to be his *friend*?! ADVISE PLEASE!?

okay so, our meeting hasn't been that long. it's only been a month we know each other. our first day was so romantic, it kind of was a date. he asked me out for marriage on the first day; or at least for something serious. i turned him down; because hey, it's only been a few hours.. so anyways. the next day, i kind of went back and said *sure*. i clarified EVERYTHING i wanted.. i clarified that i wanted to be serious. and he could be *mine* only if he was serious w/ me. sounded *cool*. then surprise surprise- i suddenly tease him about whether he has a girlfriend in Jamaica (that's where he's from by the way), and he says *yes*. it turns out that he really does. HOWEVER he's still been acting pretty serious with me. Goes on about 5 days, until he says, ';hey i don't know what i want';. i said ';why. well i don't care about your girlfriend (coz he doesn't seem to care about her either); i want you.'; he sounds serious.. but then, he backs off, EVERY SINGLE TIME. after the 5 days, he goes back to Jamaica, and he supposedly comes back in 6 months.. (well it's 5 months now). i thought it was a *long distance relationship*. then, surprise surprise- he asks me out to be his friend. we made out and stuff while he was here. we foreplayed but never got to sex. we agreed that we'll hold it off until 6 months. and then he asks me whether i can be his *friend*. of course i feel down about it; i like him a lot; %26amp; he knows. he was like, ';you know, i love you for who you are. i just wish you did the same for me';. i'm just like, ';hold it, what do you mean!'; i think what he meant was that i had to love him for *having his girlfriend*.. WHO WOULD DO THAT?? first he makes me serious, then he tells me to have patience, then he tells me to be his *friend*??! WHAT TA HELL? i was like, ';if you like us to be done right here, i can certainly do that. but i can't take u as a friend; we had more than that.'; there are certain people u can be friends w/ and certain u can't be w/. he goes like, ';i don't wanna lose u';. i'm like well then, make up your mind. OKAY SO.. i'll go on and on about this. but really, if ya'll can relate, where is this going?? i don't understand. should i just disconnect all of my communications with him? is that what i do? how do i do that? because he asked me to help him financially, and i promised him i will, regardless of what i am to him. ADVISE PLEASE! thanks for any help. sorry this was long. After going through so much w/ him, he tells me to be his *friend*?! ADVISE PLEASE!?
There is something seriously wrong w/this whole picture. To date someone one time, ask them to get married, then find out he has a g/f in another place? What does he take you for. One thing for sure, %26amp; that is DO NOT dare lend him or give him one red cent. This is truly what it sounds like he wanted from you in the first place, %26amp; the only thing he wanted you for. I also would tell him you do not care to hear from him anymore...no more communication. He's either a con artist, or doesn't know what he's doing except trying to hit you up for money. You do NOT need this person in your life to further confuse you in any way. Tell him to just stay in Jamaica w/his g/f %26amp; let her give him the money he needs, All you have to tell him is that you are not going to take anymore of his calls or have anything to do w/him from this date on. There are too many red flags waving in front of your face w/this man. Get away from him completely fast..please please do this for your own good. Best to you...:)After going through so much w/ him, he tells me to be his *friend*?! ADVISE PLEASE!?
I he has a girlfriend you need to kick the clown to the curb and one of the answerers said it too. Change the locks and do not answer the door. a friend is not a guy that goes out with other girls! He wants his cake and eat it too. Tell him to eat poop!
Go 2 Singles %26amp; Dating because your should not consider marriage.
He's just not that nto you. Look for someone better.
kick this clown to the curb
He just wants the best of both worlds girl! When he goes to Jamaica, he has a gf there that he can spend some time with and chill out and relax and have fun with. And when he comes back, he also wants to have someone that he can spend some time with and chill out and relax and have fun with. And that is YOU. I think he thinks you are stupid to agree to whatever he wants.
He wants to stay with his girlfriend, probably his wife, and have you on the side.





You took his marriage talk too seriously and all he wanted was a fling and was using words to get you into the sack.





If you can put up with his infidelity so be it, otherwise accept he is a player and get him out of your life.