For males only...how would you feel receiving a dvd with porn on it given to you by your girlfriend?

a while back i posted this question with my dilemma....here it is...then i'll further explain...


What is wrong with me, and what can i do to help this situation that has gotten me really down?


I have a question for males only...?


Hi there i am a 33 yr old average looking female, i'm 5'6';, medium build, size 12, i'm not obese. i've been with someone for two years now. we don't live together yet, but plan to in the next months. I know he watches porn, i've found it on his pc, and know he' s downloaded it many times. i've seen them in his pc. he constantly makes up ridiculous excuses for them etc...i'm not saying that watching porn is BAD, i think it's normal, but i'm feeling that it's taking away time from our intimacy because he know has this image of a female that should look like those women do in the porns, i'm not like them. so i've been feeling less confident and not good enough for his desires or sexual needs. i'm here for him, but at times he secretely watches them, and then doens't consider me. it doesn't seem like satisfying me is of any priority, and this hurts real bad. i'm scared to make any moves while we're in bed, cause i'm scared he'll just turn me down. it's happened that we'd start making love and just wouldn't take it all the way cause he'd stop. i know he's not cheating, he has reassured me he's very much in love with me, says that i'm exaggerating, but my blood boils because he has never once admitted to him watching it. BUT I'VE SEEN THEM SAVED ON HIS PC!!! it's crazy. i'd just like to know if any guy out there seems to sound like my man with respects to their women, can you give me some advice at how to attack this situation? my man says that i'm a ball breaker for always trying to talk about this problem, but we never seem to resolve anything, therefore, yes it does come up often. I'm feeling not good enough for him sexually as he prefers the porn, and i don't know what to do. I'm really down about this. any advice from any men out there? i'd really appreciate it...thanks in advance!





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6 days ago


i've also suggested watching it together, because i really don't find nothing seriously BAD with watching porn, UNLESS it doesn't take away form your sexual needs and realtionship..that's my problem, i feel like it is...and his answer to watching it together, well he just thinks it disrespecful and raunchy!





...so i'm visiting my family and am not in the country with him right now, so to overcome this ';insecurity'; or lack of self confidence i decided to play along and have made him a porn dvd and mailed it to him, with a pair of my white stockings and garter belts...i thought it would be kinky...do you think he'll enjoy it? do you think he'll have fun with it? i thought instead of sitting there creating all these self confidence issues, i decided to play along...DID I DO A GOOD THING? WHAT DO YOU THINK HIS REACTION WILL BE?For males only...how would you feel receiving a dvd with porn on it given to you by your girlfriend?
wow this is a tuff situation...but if he loves you he should NOT be looking at porn,if i realy love a girl she is the only thing i need,if he is looking at porn that coulfd be damaging ur relashionshiop bucause he could get the wrong idea of a relshionship,relashionships should not be based on just good sex and good lucks if you love him pour out ur heart to him tell him to get rid of the porn,u say your average looking who cares? he is lucky to have your love and better realize hes lucky to have u theres alot of guys who want someont to love them but they dont have it.....good luck and your awesome u deserve a guy who wants ONLY you tell him thatFor males only...how would you feel receiving a dvd with porn on it given to you by your girlfriend?
damnn i read your problem..n wow. i think that him watching porn is not a good idea.. i mean i think every guy has seen or doesnt mind seeing one here and there but ummmm i think hes watching a bit too much.....






most guys watch porn at some point and time its nothing new and it really has nothing to do with the girl or wife we are with...porn has no strings attached or no one to please except us...and no most guys will never get or have the pretty porn star girl friend..and no matter how good a sex life the guy will be looking for something new or exciting. the best way for you and he to have a good sex life and good relationship is commucation and wanting to make each other happy.. he knows you he knows your body he has seen what you got he knows how u use what you got he know how far you will go and the things you will do..but the porn gives him an out and he can think about and do things with out any strings attached and no one will think of him a weird or kinky..most men no matter how good the sex in a relationship will still fantisize and masturbate .....so if you want things to get better the best thing to do is open up the commucationss and work things out.