What would you do if you found that your girlfriend of 4 years is a lesbian?

I have been with my same girl since high school. We are both now 22 and we have a child together. I have recently found that she has been searching for other women online and seeking to meet up with them. I am jus confused our sex life is great so I don't think that is wrong. I am willing to make sacrifices for her and for our relationship, but how do I welcome her sexuality with out sounding like I am a perve?What would you do if you found that your girlfriend of 4 years is a lesbian?
If you're okay with your girlfriend cheating on you, then what's the problem? Nothing needs to be said.What would you do if you found that your girlfriend of 4 years is a lesbian?
isnt that cheating since she's with you and searching for a gf online?? does she know that you know?? it all depends on you babe, i wouldnt tolerate it but i'm not in your shoes
If she's with you and the sex is great why do you say she is not attracted to you at all? If she is attracted to you, and to women as well, then she is bi not lesbian. Hetero-sexual lifelong monogamy is just one of many forms of relationship/marriage that have been practiced with great success throughout the world throughout history. It's not even one of the more successful forms, as witness all the divorces. I've know many bisexual people to work out methods for making a marriage work, two examples: 1. A bisexual woman married a man and a woman, since she is the head of the household, she owns the house, after all, it is not a case of a man having two wives, but of a woman having a wife and husband; 2. A bisexual couple agreed to an open marriage, he had no woman but her but was free to swing with men, and vice versa, this worked for the people involved, and there have been no problems with either un-planned pregnancy or STDs. The married triple I mentioned is still going strong after over 20 years. You need to delete the word ';perve'; from your vocabulary, mutually enjoyable activities between consenting adults in the privacy of their own home are no one Else's business.
cheating is cheating
i would love, care for, accept, respect, need, and welcome he


r that much more. what is wrong with her being a lesbian? is t


hat some kind of deadly killer. are you going to get any lesser


sex, is the world going to end, are your dick going to fall off,ar


e you going to lose her over night, are her kids going to turn g


ay and screw your head off? then what is wrong if she is a les


bian? you should be thankful that things could remain the sam


e for the two of you.what do you want us to do, or say?
I would hope you would want a monogomous relationship. Whether she prefers men, women, or both, this probably doesn't include you. Searching for someone else is cheating. If she can't be with you exclusively you need to move on. This happened to my husband before we met. Happily he and she moved on to other people. It worked out for the best. (We've been married 11 yrs.)
Just wing it man. Have fun while you can...
if she's down wit the whole group thing then recognize a blessing when you see it
Maybe she's bisexual?





My wife is bi, and we swing to allow her to expore that side of herself.





Swinging isn't cheating. Doing things dishonestly or behind someone's back, is cheating.
Accept it or leave her.She will not change
maybe she is just curious about her own sexuality.


does she know that you know these things?


it is something you need to talk to her about. she might not have any plans to leave you or anything.
Well, if she's still with you, then she must be bi, y'know? Anyway, just confront her about it and ask her directly. No beating around the bush, here. Don't sound condescending, but let her explain what's going on. She really shouldn't be going behind your back, trying to meet up with other women, y'know?





Just be up-front with her and don't back her into a corner.
Depends, when your married your supposed to be dedicated to the person that your married to. Her trying to sleep with someone else while she's married is wrong regardless if the person would be a male or female.
Whether or not your sex life with her truly is great, there's trouble here. She is not being honest with you and she's checking out other lovers. Even if she hasn't yet met with anyone, it's on her mind and she may be breaking your emotional intimacy by getting close with someone else. She is either a lesbian who doesn't know how to tell you yet, or she's a bisexual. She may not even be sure yet which one she is! If I were you, I would go talk with her about her feelings, and find out why she isn't communicating with you. And if you really are going to ';welcome her sexuality'; then you should be aware that you probably won't be included in her involvements with women. When women get together, most of them typically don't want a man included. Women want their experiences to be more intimate and special and that means the men aren't invited. Not too many couples survive open-marriage... It sounds like you two won't be getting married either way.