What your saying is if his parents don't warm up to you then you won't marry your fiance is that right? There is no way you are in love with your fiance if you feel that way. Your not marrying his parents your marrying him and just because his parent doesn't like you is no reason not to get married. Sounds like your just looking for an excuse to get out of the whole thing.How to make your fiance's quite parents, to warm up to you?
The two of you could invite them out to dinner. If you've been at their house a lot, have you tried to converse with them? Complement the house or the mom's sweater-something. A dinner out kind of forces some kind of conversation.
If they don't speak to you then, there's probably not much else you can do. Either they will get used to having you around or they might never accept you. Lot of daughters-in-law have to deal with this issue. If it's not something you want to live with forever, then so be it.
Just be yourself, welcome them into your home, always be courteous, and let them make their decision. And remember, if your fiance chooses you, he's made his decision, too.
You might want to keep a low profile with that,
because it seems like they are'nt sure of their
son's choice, and there's some sentiment, with
the ex. I will say if you have a strong relationship
with their son that should be your only interest,
you're already engaged, be respectful toward his
parents but don't get too close right now. It's not
about his ex it's about you now, as long as you
keep to yourself and just think about the two of
you. His parents will always be there, whether
you marry him or not.
I think you need to find a way to spend time with them, outside of their home. Invite them to a nice dinner/show or some activity you think they might like. Show interest in them and their lives. Show them that you want to have a good relationship with them. I can't believe you haven't been working on this these past four years, you have to get a move on it now.
Make sure to present yourself well, be respectful, be open, ask them questions, answer theirs, have some stories to tell about your past. These people may be your in-laws for a very long time and who knows, maybe even your kids grandparents one day. Start building a relationship with them now, don't wait.
Your fiance should step in and talk to them about the ex-gf. I believe you have every right to expect that of him. For them to continue to talk to her and remain on friendly terms with her is one thing, but to ';happily embrace'; her in your presence was extremely disrespectful to you.
Be yourself. If you don't, then you will always be living a lie to ';warm up'; to them.
Maybe if you all went out for drinks (responsible drinking) and just had some fun conversation
Maybe they hoped their son would marry a woman that could spell.
You spelled ';quiet'; wrong - TWICE.
buy them a nice bottle of wine
they may be drinkers.
they are not happy that he chose you and not his ex girlfriend
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