When your girlfriend's mom gets invovled?!?

What should I do about this one?! Her mom is always saying how we should cut people out of our relationship (in terms of dealing with fights and what not) but then she always butts in with her opinion and swings my girlfriend around and makes her feel insecure about her plans. Like we were planning on moving to Montreal, which is were I'm originally from, but then her mom made her feel worried about it because she needs therapy and blah blah blah and maybe she's not ready and she has abandonment issues and apparently my family is too controlling. They have a lot to say about my family, but they don't know very much and it really offends me. My girlfriend is 21 but according to her actions and what her mom says, needs to be treated like a 16 year old. I want her to make up her own mind, not be so easily influenced. She was all excited to go and now she's terrified. What should I do?When your girlfriend's mom gets invovled?!?
The person who needs to tell momma to stop butting in is your girlfriend. Unfortunately if she doesn't stand up to her mother, she will be butting in at every chance she gets. Talk to your girlfriend and tell her how you feel but tread lightly and try not to put a rift between your girlfriend and her mom. It will most likely backfire. If your girlfriend won't take the lead on putting her foot down with her mother, you will have to realize that her mother will always be doing this and you'll have to decide if you want a furure with girlie and momma as a packaged deal.When your girlfriend's mom gets invovled?!?
Sounds like your girl's mom needs therapy. She needs to stay out of the relationship she will only make it worse to the point that it will end it. Talk to your girlfriend and let her know how you feel about this whole situation. Try to work together to get therapy for her mom. Your girlfriend needs to stop depending on her mom so much. She needs to cut the umbilical cord. She needs to put her foot down.
leave her!!
I guess you could avoid the problem and break up?
Her mom is the controlling one! Talk to your GF ALONE and figure things out that way. She's a big girl. She doesn't need mommy for everything!
Sad to hear about all that. It is unfortunate that she is treating you both like that. It sounds like she's the one with abandonment issues. The only thing for you to do is to encourage your g/f to make her OWN mind up. If she chooses to not do that, then you are better off to move on down the line. Sorry to say that, but if she can't stand on her own now, you have to ask will she ever????


Give her time and be patient. She still may make the move! As for the mother talking about your parents, try not to make a big deal out of it with your g/f RIGHT NOW. She's under enough pressure as it is about the move. You can deal with that at a later date if it comes up again. I am not saying you should not be upset, but if you really love this girl, you need to understand that she has a ';demanding'; mother (to put it lightly) and that can make a person go crazy (take it from someone who has a controlling mother myself). It's not easy to go against them. Just be patient and don't give the mother any reason to come at you!!!!
run,that woman will always be in the way.
Tell her not to be worried and she will be looked after and everything. Also speak to her mum and say that she is the most precious thing ever and you will look after her and not to be worried she will be safe. If this doesn't work tell your girlfriend how her mum is offending you and that she's making your girlfriend feel insecure. Sorry hope i helped xx. Good Luck !!
just find somewhere to talk to her alone. and if her mom comes around when you 2 are talking, just say that you were about to go out. find somewhere to go where her mom doesnt know where it is, then talk.


simple as that
I read your earlier question about how your GF is a flirt and you don't know if you can trust her. You said you were reading her emails to find out what is going on.





Your relationship with her doesn't sound very stable if you are doubting the trust issue.





If she needs therapy and has issues, she should deal with those.





Ideally, both parties should be emotionally mature and healthy people before they join forces. Just bc two people have good times, doesn't mean they will make good living partners.





%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;%26gt; I think if the two of you do move out together right now, there will be drama down the road.





Note: if you are going to post a Q. post the entire history so people can make a thoughtful response that makes sense. Keep *all* the facts in. I offer this response in the hopes that you make a good decision for yourself.
directly ask her mom (in front of your gf) what the difference between cutting out other people and cutting her (mom) out? Point out to mom how many mental hurdles she throws up, how she treats your gf like a 16 year old. Throw some good and supportive things in there too, lest your tick off your gf.
I wouldn't say that you should break up, but I would think very careful about this one. If you plan on taking this relationship forward, then you have to realize that her family is going to influence every decision that you, as a couple, are faced with. This can be very frustrating, especially if you are an independent person.
Kill her family. Its the only way out.