Does your boyfriend/girlfriend make sarcastic comments or joke about intimate things?

My boyfriend has said sarcastically about having sex with mutual friends. One text was Alex and I are going to have sex and some others are about me giving blow jobs to other men. When i was sick with a throat virus i made a remark about giving blow jobs at the gas station but i was kidding. He took it seriously and said he was sensitive and stuff so i don't do it anymore. Recently we got into a big fight because his chick friend is in a relationship and having urges to kiss girls because she is bisexual so he brings that up when we are just sitting around chatting then he said Can i kiss men? How about other women? I took it seriously and i mentioned i was hurt by it. He said that he was being sarcastic about it and i don't trust him. In the fight i said he should not joke as much about that because i have been cheated on 6 years ago. He also mentioned that I have self esteem issues. What would you do? Was i right tell him to cool it with the joking? Do I have self esteem issues?Does your boyfriend/girlfriend make sarcastic comments or joke about intimate things?
This comes down to what is and isn't acceptable in your relationship. If you don't mind him talking about kissing other men or women then he should be man enough to take back what he dishes out. However if you are offended, then you tell him. You teach people how to treat you. If you allow them to treat you in a way that is unacceptable, then you have no one to blame but yourself. If he's so sensitive, then he shouldn't be making jokes like you described. Sounds like its okay for him but not you. That's a control issue. Last man that pulled that on me ended up putting me in the hospital when I did something he decided he didn't like. I put him in jail.Does your boyfriend/girlfriend make sarcastic comments or joke about intimate things?
It sounds like you have not set any boundaries with him, nor him with you





I would suggest you sit down - when you are not in the midst of hurting each other and talk about what are things you can talk about and what are things you can't talk about





Stick to them
Ask him what kind of relationship he wants and if he mentions an orgy or something like that meaning three or more in the bedroom, then I think you should dump him if you don't want the same thing as him.
You were completely right to tell him to cool it with the joking. If he keeps on making jokes that hurt your feelings and you aren't making any jokes back, then have a serious talk.
Sarcasm, is the lowest from of wit, and only used by those, who aren't bright enough to come up with some reasonable thought. The trouble with sarcasm, unless you know that he or she is being sarcastic, it comes across as a straight forward remark. And hence, many feelings are hurt.


You know sarcasm is bad, when a few seconds later, after the sarcastic remark has been made, they say, ';Just Kidding';, and it's often hard to know if that's the truth or not.


Sarcasm is the last refuge of scoundrels. so tell your boyfriend, you don't appreciate it, and try not to do it yourself.


It seems you are both bad, at recognizing sarcasm when you hear it. Although, not many people are good at catching it. One reason, it's such a bad idea, to use it.