During the last couple of years, I lost everything. I lost all of my ';friends';. My family doesn't really recognize me anymore. I lost my job, and I'm currently broke. Don't even ask about girlfriends because I don't have one. To top it all off, I have a bad rep with everybody who I've ever associated with. I'm basically living an empty and desolate life right now. How do I pull myself up by my bootstraps and start all over again?How do you pull yourself up by your bootstraps and make it on your own?
Well, you have taken the first step by recognizing what you have become. Try getting some counseling. Just try to correct all the things you know are undesirable about you. Get another job. Save some money. Straighten up your act. You can make new friends, like at work. Try getting involved in some group that you are interested in. volunteer somewhere. Soon you find people respecting you again, and better, you will respect yourself. How old are you? Are you still in school? You know, the more education you have, the more marketable you are for employers. think about going to college. You can make friends in school.How do you pull yourself up by your bootstraps and make it on your own?
Well, you have hit rock bottom, and the only other direction you can go is up from here. You need to get away from all the people you have disappointed and all the people who you associated with that brought you down. You also need to take responsibility for the actions that caused you to be in this situation. I don't know if it was drugs, alcohol, stealing, gambling, or whatever it might have been. You need to get help. You can look for a local church or homeless shelter that might help. I don't think it will be easy, but they should help get your life on track. You need to work on an education, get a new job, and start a new life before the family and friends you left behind will start to trust you again.
that is me in a nutshell bro, and I'm lovin every minute of it=D
I'm wondering how the bad rep came along. As an introvert
i'm impartial to most of what others think about me. this is the perfect time to find out what make YOU a complete person. All the social monkeys are off your back man . Time to prioritize 'you' . wait a minute... Is that you George Bush?? =D
Don't listen to Liberals. They will only make it worse for you. Oh they will say that they will help but in reality they are making you dependent upon Government for your livelihood. Liberals destroy people's confidence in themselves.
You are the only one who can help you. Not get off your a** and be successful!
';even if you don't have boots';
uh.... i would just focus on me and my interests if i were you.
um...travel, get out and meet new people. go back to school (if you don't have a masters or whatever)
nows the time to leave your old life behind, and start anew.
good luck
start with baby steps. First you must be grateful that you are alive and well, thank God for that. Try getting a job, even a small one, be busy and you'll start to be around new people.Start with small steps and just keep going ...don't look back
Just do one thing right, next day do it again, and so on. Gradually you get in the habit of doing things right and you are on your way.
One day at a time.Meet new people and make new friends.Don't give up though, it will be hard but you can do it if you only try.
Wake up to who your SAVIOR really is! The picture is ';The other guy'; in sheep's clothing!
Start following the real savior! He will show you the way!
move somewhere else......and start all over......no-1 will know who you are and you can start fresh
move to someplace new and make a fresh start.
Put your trust and faith in the Lord. Prayer works wonders.
You still got Air Force 1 right ?
Sorry UBL. But you are gonna have to stay in the cave. We don't want you out here with the rest of us anymore.
My 2 cents...
I think you should do alot of soul searching. By that I mean...really disect where everything started ';going downhill';. You claim...';during the last couple of years';...so, go back and try to review what was my role in changing the course of my current life situation. If you take a look back at what you just wrote above, you wrote variations of the word ';I';,';I'm';, ';I've about 9 times in just a few short sentences. Could that be ';it';? Has your life been ALL about you? Did you conduct yourself in ways that were only or mostly self-serving? Was everything in your life ';my way or the highway';...did you give people the choice of befriending, liking or loving you? Or did you create situations that were merely ultimatums? Did you take time to nurture your life, your relationships, your friendships? Only you know the answers to these questions.
You also wrote ';To top it all off, I have a bad rep with everybody who I've ever associated with';....why is this so? What did you to to them? Did you show disrespect to them? Did you lie, cheat and treat them poorly? You know the story in your heart...you kept score and so did they. When you thought you had ';one up'; on them...you were bringing yourself down little by little.
ALL you have in life is yourself and your integrity. You come into this world with nothing...and you leave with nothing....so the world around you is ALL that you create. You give what you get...you get what you give. If you give negative energy...you get negative energy.
So, to answer your question...';How do you pull yourself up by your bootstraps and make it on your own?'; ...my answer is ';you just do';.
';Do...go back in your mind and heart when times were better. Think about how you felt and work from that mindset.';
';Do..go back with the spirit of true intention to change your life and make amends to those you've wronged. Start with YOURSELF first. Forgive yourself first. You did yourself wrong somewhere...a longtime ago...maybe someone else did...a long time ago. BUT you are not dead yet, your life is not over. You do have redeeming qualities...somewhere deep inside. Take an imaginary shovel and dig down deep....relocate all of the good things you were born with. Allow your heart, your tears, your vulnerability %26amp; your courage to show through.';
';Do..make your apologies to those you have wronged...amends begin with the words...';I'm sorry';. Those two words have the power to change so much.'; What the recipient does with those words is their choice.
';Do ..take action on your life...only you have this power to change your circumstance.';
';Relive your life in a manner that says ';If I had to do it all over again...I would do...'; because until the day you die, you have the power to change your circumstance.
';Stop feeling sorry for yourself...pity doesn't help you it only keeps you from feeling empowered...it WILL get better if you want it to.';
Good luck to you...
Well, there has to be more to the story than just everyone and everything disowning you altogether. It could be because you have not been ';the best person'; you might have been??? You and God only know.
You should just try to first do what's right. If you need to make things up to people do it in actions after you apologize for anything that may have been your fault. Do right by them. That is a saying that you must make it up to that person who you may have hurt in anyway. Either secretly or you just changing your life for the better. Why do you have a bad rep with ';everybody';? You only know. But real friends will take you back once you've changed for the better. Your family as well.
You can try going to a church near by, I go to a Christian church that has been there for me for the last 18 years. I walked in all messed up from a life of drugs and alcohol, lost my kids to the system but with good people praying for me and supporting me when I was weak, helped me to get a hold of the bootstraps that had been torn and broken! I was able to pick myself up and start a new life! Because God forgives and gives second chances!
Hope things change for you, and remember that Jesus loves you and all things are possible through him!
good luck! I will keep you in my prayers!
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